Peak State Triad–Learning To Control Your Emotions

Our emotions play a huge role in how you feel and as a result influence the STATE or MINDSET that you are in.  If you’re able to achieve a peak state more often, then the quality of your life will be enhanced.  You are much more likely to be happier, have a growth mindset and focus on achieving excellence in your life.

One big factor that affects our state, as humans, is living in the past.  We often focus on past events and how we were negatively influenced by those events.  In essence we are holding on to things that we can’t change, and as a result our state is negatively impacted.  We begin to make excuses as to why things are the way they are in the present, rather than learning from the past.

Your state can change from one minute to the next, so it’s important to have a plan to ensure that we are in a peak state as often as possible.

So what are the factors that influence our emotions and thereby our state?

1- Physiology

How we use our bodies has a huge impact on our emotions and how we feel.  Think about how you breathe when you’re upset compared to when you are relaxed or happy.  Big difference, right?  When you’re upset or angry your breathing is likely shallower and more rapid whereas in a relaxed and happy state it is likely more rhythmic, full and slower.  How about your posture?  In a relaxed state your shoulders are probably down and back whereas when angry or upset you are more likely to be more hunched forward with lots of tension in your neck and shoulders.

Taking the time to change your physiology and understand how this connects to your emotions is really important.  Try it out!  Next time you feel stresssed out, notice what your breathing and posture are like.  Make a conscious effort to slow down your breathing and take full deep breaths in and out–similar to what you would do in meditation.  Also, you can change from sitting to standing, or go for a walk.  Exercise is a great way to change your physiology as week.  When you take care of your body, your emotions are typically more positive.  All of these things are changing your physiology so that you can positively impact your emotions and therefore your state.

You can also be proactive with this.  Don’t wait until you’re in a negative state to change your physiology.  Make a habit of doing breathing exercises or meditation at the start of your day to help put yourself in a positive state.  All it takes is 5-10 minutes and it can have a huge impact on the rest of your day!  Or, get your workout in early on in the day and start your day feeling positive and in a peak state.

2- Focus

“Where focus goes, energy flows”.

This is so true!  Do you focus on the positives and learnings in life, or do you tend to dwell on the negatives or what could go wrong?

Think of how you feel when you focus on a negative event that took place in the past, or when you’re worried about something in the future.  Notice what happens to your energy and emotions.  This often will make you go into a negative state…far from a peak mindset.

So simply change your focus.  Ask yourself; What did I learn from this past event?  What good things have come out of it?  What if the future things I’m worrying about go well rather than assuming something bad will happen?  You can change what you are focusing on quite easily if you make a conscious effort to do so!

3- Language

The words you use, both internally and externally, are so important in determining the state you are in.

What language do you typically use?  Do you put yourself down and say “I can’t do this” or “I always fail” or “Bad things always seem to happen to me”.

Try changing your language to things such as “I’ve got this” or “I know I can succeed” or “Bad things may have happened to me but I can always take away the learnings”.  You can also think of different empowering words that represent who you are or want to be.  An example would be “I am a warrior” or “I am resilient” or “I am successful”.

It’s easy to get caught up in saying the things we’ve always said to ourselves, and we start to believe those things.  Often we don’t even realize that we’ve said the words.  Try to change them.  Write your new empowering words on sticky notes and post them in your house, office or wherever you can so you can start to change your language.


Work on these three factors and you will notice your emotions change which will then put you in a better state or mindset.  It really is in your control, and is simpler than you may think!  Even being more aware of these factors will help you to “catch yourself” when you are in a negative state.  When that happens, change things up!  Stand up, go for a walk, exercise,focus on your breathing, check your focus and change your language.  When you start to realize how much control you have over your emotions, it’s a pretty cool thing!

Achieving excellence in life is so much easier when you are in a peak state!  What is holding you back from achieving this?



Give To Yourself So You Can Give To Others

Giving is such a powerful interaction in life.  It’s important to feel as though we’ve helped to make someone else’s life better while feeling the power and energy of contribution.

Contribution is one the six basic human needs and is essential to spiritual well-being.

Think of the last time you gave to someone….how good did that feel?  Why did it feel so good?  What were the feelings you had?  How did it make the other person feel?  How did it help you to grow as a person?

One of the keys to giving is that we don’t look at it as transactional.  We shouldn’t give in order to receive something back.  You give because you want to.  You give because you want to help make someone else’s life better, and it gives you that spiritual satisfaction of having contributed to helping someone.

Is there such a thing as giving too much though?  Can we be too selfless?

I think yes, absolutely!  I will often do a self-checkin and ask myself what I am getting out of giving.  What is satisfying about it?  What purpose is it serving?  Am I feeling good about it or are there certain hesitations starting to creep in?

In order to keep giving to others, you need to give to yourself, first and foremost.  Giving allows us to feel the need for contribution, but if you’re not able to answer what giving in a certain situation is giving back to yourself then you need to reconsider.

Giving to yourself can mean so many different things.  From having compassion and love for yourself, to allowing yourself to be human, make mistakes and learn from them.

Learning to give to ourselves is often overlooked.  It’s not selfish….it’s essential!  Giving to ourselves allows us to recharge and be able to continuing giving to others.

Keep on giving, keep on contributing, but remember to ask yourself the question “what purpose do I have for giving and how is it serving ME in a positive way?”.

Have a great week!

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Happy Father’s Day–Miss you Dad

Happy Father’s Day to all the fathers out there!

It’s days like today where I miss my Dad so much. ❤️🙏🏼

I wish I could pick up the phone right now and say Happy Father’s Day and tell him how much I love him.
Although it’s been almost 14 years…the pain never goes away. But what has changed over the years is the way I look at things. 🙏🏼

I used to have so much difficulty, especially on special occasions, focusing on our loss and being sad and feeling like life was so unfair.
I focused on the hurt and the pain and what Dad had to go through. It took the joy and happiness out of other things in life. Every time someone would bring up Dad, I would shut down and think that avoiding it would make me feel better.

Over the years I’ve learned to focus on how lucky and grateful I am to have had such an amazing, genuine and hard working Dad as a role model. He instilled so many values in me that I’m proud of today. I enjoy talking about my Dad now and ensuring that his memory lives on.

None of us know where our path in life will lead us. What I do know is we need to be grateful and learn from what brought us to the present moment. Nothing else in life is guaranteed.

Happy Father’s Day in heaven Dad. Love you and thanks for guiding me to be who I am today. ❤️❤️❤️

Don’t Forget About YOUR Dreams

When your mission and purpose in life is to help others to live their best lives, you must be aware of not forgetting about yourself.

It’s definitely a fine line. The more you help people, the more inspired you become since that is aligning with your values and beliefs. There needs to be a balance though. A good friend of mine once said to me, “If you’re working on the dreams of others then you might be neglecting your own dreams”.

So what does this mean? Does it mean you shouldn’t help others? No, absolutely not. What is does mean though is that you can become so invested in the success of others at times, that you may forget about moving yourself forward to achieving your dreams and goals.

I used to think that focusing on myself was selfish, and that all my time and efforts should be spent on helping others. The truth is, if you’re not focusing on yourself first, then that is actually selfish as you’re not able to give the best of yourself to those that you want to help and serve.

So remember to make time to focus on YOUR dreams and goals. By taking care of yourself first you will better align with your mission and purpose in life, and in turn be able to better help others to achieve their dreams and goals…it’s a win-win!


Is Life Happening TO YOU or FOR YOU?

Especially during these uncertain times…simply changing your language can help you to shift your mindset.
Starting today, think of all the positive things and learnings that have occurred as a result of our recent challenges.🙏🏼

Is life happening TO YOU or FOR YOU?



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Don’t Trade Your Authenticity For Approval

How often do you seek approval from others? How is that benefiting you? 🤔

Be authentic…be yourself…and don’t trade that for approval from others. ✅

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Your Tribe Is Your Vibe

✅The people in your network can have a big influence on your path in life.

✅If you want to grow and do big things in life, then surround yourself with others who also want to grow and do big things.

✅If it’s important to you to support others then make sure you have people in your network that support you as well. It’s a two-way street.

✅Gravitate to those that push you out of your comfort zone…to be better and to live your best life.

✅Always remember that you are in control of your network….or at least where you spend your time and energy.

There’s nothing better than people supporting each other…pushing each other…and growing together. Always appreciate your support network and don’t take anything for granted. 🙌🏼

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